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Professional couple power dynamics: you have to negotiate to make dual careers work, says author of road map to successful partnership

  • An expert, herself one half of a dual-career couple, spent six years interviewing couples around the world at different career and life stages
  • Those that succeed, Jennifer Petriglieri says, have regular conversations, check their power dynamics and base their relationships on kindness

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There is no secret to becoming the perfect dual-career couple is, says one expert who has spent six years researching the subject – just regular conversations and basing a relationship on kindness. Photo: Shutterstock
Kate Whitehead

It’s a Wednesday evening and the crowd squeezed into a small function room at Hong Kong’s exclusive China Club are alumni of the Insead business school.

Mostly in their 30s and 40s, they are a professional-looking bunch – men and women fresh from their offices.

What has enticed them to come straight here, skipping dinner? Perhaps a talk on banking trends or corporate governance? No – they are here to discover the secret to being a successful dual-career couple.

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The number of dual-career couples is on the rise. In North America and Europe, both partners in more than 65 per cent of couples are working, and that number is increasing. Even in Japan, where the proportion of dual-career couples is slightly lower – at about 60 per cent – the trend is consistently upwards.

The number of dual-career couples is on the rise. Photo: Getty Images/a-clip RF
The number of dual-career couples is on the rise. Photo: Getty Images/a-clip RF
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Jennifer Petriglieri, associate professor of organisational behaviour at Insead, is well positioned to speak on the subject. She’s not only one half of a dual-career couple, she has also spent six years studying the subject and, in October, published the book Couples That Work.
She conceived the idea for the book when her two children were young, and she was acutely aware of the interaction between kids and career. It was also around the time that Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg famously stated: “The most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.” Petriglieri was at the event.
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