The Naked Truth | Why you should forget about being ‘feminine’ and be sexy in your true self
- Traditional ideas about femininity judge women and try to dictate how they are supposed to look, feel and act
- They should throw off those shackles of conformity and learn to feel comfortable with who they are
If being ladylike is out of your wheelhouse, or you never feel particularly feminine in comparison to others, then don’t worry; you aren’t the only one who feels this way. More and more women are dismantling traditional views of femininity and embracing their own standard of beauty and sexiness, which goes against the grain. Rather than forcing ourselves to conform to conventional notions of attractiveness, we ought to banish the straitjacket of conventional femininity and become our real selves.
In fact, having the confidence to flaunt and wear our true self loudly and proudly is extremely sexy, it is also an overlooked facet of modern womanhood. In other words, women don’t always have to be feminine to be sexy.
“I feel that is a very personal choice. To some, it’s sexy and to others, it isn’t. It’s all about how you feel in your own skin and being authentic to who you are,” says Nathalie Sommer, a certified relationship and intimacy coach.
So, what makes people think that conventional femininity is sexy?
“We are conditioned by patriarchy and the mass media as to what femininity is and what makes femininity sexy. If we were to strip all the conditioning back and ask ourselves, what is femininity and what makes it sexy, the answers would probably differ.”