The Naked Truth | Communication, self worth are key when your partner blows hot and cold all the time
- If the person you love constantly pulls away from you emotionally, it can leave you feeling rejected, confused and frustrated
- When they act this way, you should stand your ground – ignore them, be your unique self and show them you are not affected by their behaviour
We all know someone who blows hot and cold, but it’s an especially bitter, hard-to-swallow pill when we are intimately connected with such a mercurial person.
This unstable behaviour is confusing and emotionally draining, as it puts the person on the receiving end in a state of self-doubt, or even self-blame.
There are many reasons a person blows hot and cold. It could be that they are not ready for a committed relationship; they don’t know what they want; they are not sure what to do about their intense feelings for you; or they are emotionally unstable or unavailable.
However, if they are playing hide and seek just to make you try harder, you should resist the temptation to chase. Instead, you need to do the opposite and keep a distance.
When a person blows hot and cold, they often want you to react and give them the attention they crave. When this happens, you should stand your ground – ignore them, be yourself, be independent and show them you are not affected by their behaviour. If you give in and satisfy their ego, even just once, they know you will always react and run to them.