The Naked Truth | How to get over a break-up or divorce and why grief is something you need to deal with to move on
- Break-up grief can be overwhelming but it’s not something we can ignore with the hope that it will just fade away if we wait long enough
- Reframing the break-up in positive terms and regaining control of your finances and life provides opportunities for growth
Every romantic experience – no matter how good or bad – is important to personal development. More often than not, we come out of a relationship as an evolved version of ourselves.
A break-up or divorce is an earth-shattering experience that would make anyone feel like their world has come to an end, but we need to face all the ups and downs that come with these critical junctures before truly moving on to the next phase.
Break-up grief is very real and can be overwhelming. Going through the inevitable emotional roller coaster can take its toll, but it’s not something we can ignore with the hope that if we wait long enough, it will just fade away or end with a “light bulb moment”.
Talk to any relationship expert and they will tell you it is hugely important to grieve at the end of a relationship. One of the reasons that you need to experience the grief is that the end of a relationship entails multiple losses, and not just that of a partner.
“It is no trifling matter because it involves multiple losses: the loss of dreams and commitments, the loss of a lifestyle, the loss of support and the loss of certainty,” says Christine Deschemin, a certified hypnotherapist and founder of the Hong Kong-based Renewed Edge hypnotherapy centre.