Men need to open up about mental health, says business executive who struggled with depression and anxiety for two years
- Law firm COO Brian Henderson hid symptoms of mental illness from his family and friends for months
- He finally told his doctor and was soon on the path to recovery. Now he is on a mission to help others who find themselves in the same boat
When Brian Henderson took to social media in October to talk about his hard-won battle with mental illness, he was met with an outpouring of support from friends and colleagues across the globe. Responding to his LinkedIn post, which came with the hashtag #thisisme, many thanked Henderson for shedding light on mental illness and encouraging sufferers to seek help.
Others – including those close to him – admitted they had no idea he had been ill for two years.

“Any one of these events would be considered highly stressful, but the succession of them in my case resulted in my mental illness,” says Henderson. “I had no personal experience with mental illness, so was not familiar with the symptoms. It tends to creep up on you over time, making it hard to know at what point you have become ill, as opposed to just going through a rough patch.”
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Known for being even-tempered, Henderson began to feel increasingly irritable and emotional. Plagued by chronic insomnia and debilitating digestive problems, he found it difficult to prioritise and focus. He lost interest in the activities that once gave him joy and gradually withdrew from those closest to him.

She prescribed a low-dose antidepressant to help him sleep, and a psychologist coached him through a cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) programme.
He also did some still-life drawing – a passion from childhood – and started to learn Cantonese.
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“While I still didn’t speak about my illness, I reconnected with friends and my wider network. After a few more months, I began to feel like my old self again – energised, focused, enjoying life, looking more relaxed and years younger,” he says.
Research indicates Henderson is not alone in his struggle with mental illness, particularly during the pandemic. In a survey of 11,000 people this year, the University of Hong Kong’s Department of Psychiatry found that 70 per cent of Hongkongers were moderately or highly depressed as a result of the anti-government protests, Covid-19, personal stressors and uncertainty about the future.
Studies by mental health charity Mind HK show that 55 per cent of Hongkongers experienced a decline in their mental health during the third wave of Covid from July to September, compared to 43 per cent during January to May. Thirty-seven per cent described their mental health as poor or very poor. And a recent study by City Mental Health Alliance HK found 27 per cent of employees in Hong Kong were experiencing mental health problems.
My experience tells me it is better to confide in someone early if you feel you are struggling. Getting professional help early is essential to a good recovery
While mental health concerns can affect anyone, men are much less likely than women to seek support for their mental health, and also much less likely to disclose a mental health problem to family or friends, notes Teresa Chan, Mind HK’s clinical adviser.
“For example, boys are often taught from a young age that they have to be strong, dominant, self-reliant and in control of their emotions, but what this means … is that males often grow up to be much more reluctant to admit that they are struggling,” Chan says.
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Henderson is now on a mission to inspire positive change. In September, he founded Whole Business Wellness with the aim of helping transform the wellness and performance of people and organisations.
The company will use concrete data to generate insights and actions to take to improve individual and organisational wellness and, consequently, individual and organisational performance.
“Mental illness is proven to cost businesses a significant percentage of their profits each year through presenteeism [showing up at work unwell and not being productive, despite staying for long hours], absenteeism, staff turnover, medical insurance costs and more,” Henderson says.

Henderson hopes people will start to see mental illness in the same way they see any other form of illness. This will help encourage sufferers to seek timely support.
“My experience tells me it is better to confide in someone early if you feel you are struggling. Getting professional help early is essential to a good recovery,” he says.
Meditation to restore balance, energy
Meditation aims to reconnect and rebalance mind, body and soul through a process of mindfulness that usually involves focusing on breathing, identifying where any tension or imbalance can be felt in the body, and then using visualisation, and integrated breathing and movement, to set an intention that will restore balance and energy flows.

Henderson’s daily meditation practice draws on his lessons from the “Transform Stress to Success Online Course” – a nine-week movement and mindfulness course developed by Neelam Harjani of Hong Kong’s Inspire Yoga.
It begins with breath work to offer immediate access to restorative energy. Movement follows, to help participants understand the impact of letting go of restlessness to prepare the body and mind to sit still and savour the silence of meditation.
Drawing on neuroscience, the programme is designed to empower self-practice of being aware of what you need rather than following an instructor’s set sequence.
“I personally use a combination of breathing, mindfulness, intention, visualisation and yoga to achieve balance at the start of each day. My practice varies depending how I am feeling day to day,” Henderson says. “It’s not about following exactly the same routine every day, because every day is different and what we need to restore balance varies accordingly.”
